If a girl isn't into a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason. Maybe he was too desperate, too quiet or too boring. She knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn't want to continue dating. However, what happens if you haven't yet met and only talked online?
What makes a match suddenly lose interest in you? Is it really out of the blue and without cause? There's always a reason why the other person is ghosting you. If the chemistry is strong, and you connect, it's something to do with how you interacted. Here are some possible reasons that your match suddenly loses interest.
You take too long to respond
There are times you might message your potential match, and they immediately respond. Then what? Do you answer back right away, or does that seem desperate?
Always answer promptly. They shouldn't feel scrambling for a way to talk to you. Or have to double message you with a large gap of time between, prodding a response. Otherwise, they'll think you got the messages and chose not to answer out of disinterest. You need to make a strong enough connection with the person that they don't read into your silence. If you are really interested, maintain communication.
You don't talk about the future
A hallmark sign that someone might not be not interested in you is if they choose not to bring up the future at all. So when your match discusses your future, you can't change the subject. If you're having a great time talking to each other, it's natural to start thinking about the future. You don't necessarily have to rush into anything, but feeling like you'd like to imagine your life with them isn't nuts.
If you refuse to talk about it, it will seem as if you are not interested in building a future with the other person. We're not referring to serious things like marriage and children, more like making plans a month in advance!
You bring up serious things too early
A red flag for any couple-to-be is when you talk about marriage, children and moving in together before you even meet. You don't want to appear clingy or crazy right from the start. Keep the conversation light and superficial until you are in a serious relationship.
Don't pressure your match into a conversation about labeling the connection either, because they'll run for the hills. You're matches, not soulmates.
You don't take any interest in their life
If someone you're with doesn't care about what you like, you develop a one-sided bond. You'll soon realize that even though you know a lot about them, they can barely name your favorite color. You'll be disappointed to find that they really don't care what you think or how you feel. That feeling stinks, so take interest in your match. Ask questions, be curious and listen actively. Bring up something they mentioned earlier in the conversation, so they know you remember.
If you talk too much about yourself, you'll soon find no one listening to what you have to say. Your match should feel special, like you dropped everything to talk to them. Take an interest in things they enjoy -- maybe plan an outing based on something they like to do and you know nothing about.
If you constantly feel like matches stop talking or suddenly become uninterested in you, take a look at your approach. No one wants to be more interested in a relationship than the person they're talking to, so give them a sign that it's worth it. If you recognize yourself in any of these reasons, figure out a way to come across as more thoughtful.