Going on a date with a guy you like? Maybe he's a co-worker, a classmate or even someone you met online. Whomever he is, you probably want to know more about him. If you are looking to spark conversation, here are 10 questions you can ask a man on a first date.
1. How did you choose this place?
If your guy picked the date spot, begin here for a natural conversation starter. This is a great question to open with and can be followed up with any of the following to get the ball rolling:
- Is this your favorite restaurant?
- What's your favorite food?
- Do you enjoy cooking or prefer to eat out?
2. Are you a family person?
How much time someone spends with their family and relatives can tell you a lot about them. This question reveals the person's personality and what your life might be like if you continue to date them. And while it can be good to know what type of relationship someone has with their family and friends, knowing who they choose to surround themselves with will also help you learn more about them.
3. What are your professional goals?
For the future of your relationship, it's important to know whether your date plans to move for his career… or if he spends a lot of time at work. No one wants to play second fiddle to a job. And it's not worth putting in the effort if he'll only be around for a couple of months.
4. How do you feel about your job?
Asking this question will figure out whether he loves his job or if it's only for survival. This also gives you some insight into his vision for the future. Does he see himself climbing up that corporate ladder?
5. What has been the best day of your life, so far?
This is a great question to ask, because it gives you the opportunity to learn about what kind of things and experiences your date values most. It may also be a deeply personal story that can help you get closer.
6. What’s the worst thing you've ever done?
If the worst thing he's ever done is stole gum as a child, then you will know that he has high moral principles. If he says that he didn't pay the bill after having dinner, then you better make sure you have your wallet on hand. Discussing these things usually results in lots of laughs, minimizing the awkwardness of a first date.
7. What are your personal goals?
This is one of the best questions to ask a guy, but it's too heavy to start off with. You need to accept that romance may not be included in his goals. That shouldn't worry you. After all, these were his goals before you become part of his life.
8. What do you find attractive in a woman?
Everyone has a unique perception of an ideal partner. It can be physical traits or emotional attraction. This is the best way to figure out if you're compatible right off the bat. Don't get upset if you're not his normal type, he might have dated the wrong kind of girls in the past.
9. What do you expect from a partner?
This is a very honest question to ask a guy on a date but not as blunt as asking him what he wants from you. You can also phrase it as:
- What do you need from a relationship?
- What is the most important thing a girlfriend can give him?
- Do you have any deal breakers?
10. What do you do for fun?
The answer to this question can reveal his interests, hobbies, passions and dreams. You'll see if he is fun loving or family oriented. This reveals his passion for his life. If he has a lackluster answer for this question, run!
Bonus question: Who is the most fascinating person you know?
Ask your date about the most fascinating person in his life.
- What qualities makes that person so interesting?
- How does your date interact with this person?
Hearing your partner brag about someone else might reveal a lot more about him.