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Can You Love More Than One Person?

Can you love more than one person at the same time? Most of us have wondered this at some point in our lives. Usually, when you're already in a relationship and fall in love with someone else. It can make you feel guilty while you hide your feelings, avoid them, or alternatively, choose infidelity. But being dishonest is never a good path to travel.

Can You Love More Than One Person at a Time?

So, is it possible to love two people at the same time? 

Being in love is different than loving someone

Being in love is an intense feeling of affection for someone, but loving someone comes naturally. When someone truly loves you, they love all of you. They see where you are weak, and they support you. When they are upset with you, they talk you through it. They forgive you without passing judgement. They trust in the better side of you and believe in who you are. They'll care more about the relationship than they do about being right.

Love is pain and sacrifice, but it is the most beautiful thing in the world when it's real and reciprocated. Every relationship experiences misunderstanding from time to time. When you love someone, it's not so difficult to accept their flaws. When you choose to be kind and sweet to your partner. You put yourself aside. You give despite your hurt feelings. And that's what being in love is!

So, if you're dating or in a relationship with someone, ask yourself if you are truly in love. Life is too short to give your heart to someone who doesn't fully appreciate you.

What does falling for two people mean?

You're only human, and falling in love with two people happens. When someone new comes into your life -- someone you met online or through a mutual friend -- you may be overcome with how you feel about them. You love talking to them or the attention they give you. Be careful and know the difference between love, dependency and infatuation. Many people mistake short-lived passion and lust for love, gauging only the intensity of the relationship and not the underlying feelings.

  • Depedency can sometimes be mistaken for love. Co-dependent relationships is a strong bond but not based in love.
  • Infatuation fills in the blanks. We love ideas rather than a person. It's more fantasy than reality.
  • Lust is based out of sexual desire. It's a craving that eventually fades. Lust leaves quicker than infatuation.

Why we can't love more than one person?

Splitting your heart in two means you aren't committing to either person. So although it's possible to fall in love with more than one person, you can't love two people fully. 

Love is something built from the ground up and maintained over time. It takes a lot of time and energy. The more you love a person, the more time and energy you'll devote to them. Love is all-or-nothing. If you think you are in love with two people at a time, then chances are that you don't truly love either of them. 

See also: Real Love Meets You When You're a Mess!

Contributor, April 24, 2019

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